Imprints create challenges but Heart holds the key

    We spoke a lot about subconscious content and reality. I am now going to share a simple trick if you want to know whether it's imprints that are driving your life now. Do you find yourself in repetitive trigger situations that make you react in a same way over and over again? You must pay attention to those situations and your reactions. Most probably, it is your imprints that are at work. The first step in finding a solution is acknowledging there is a problem. Isn't it? It is simple common sense that all of us know. And let me be honest. It is a relief to know where the challenges in life are coming up from. Thank God! It is not destiny, fate or unseen hand playing chess with life. The issue is in our own subconscious. And it is a bigger relief to know there is a simple heart centred solution to come out of these challenges. I had a client whose case demonstrates how imprints work. It is a typical situation in most families. She is happily married to a wealthy business man for few years now. They are a loving couple except for one dark cloud over their happy blue skies. Her husband's large family, including some of the relatives, ask financial assistance from him quite often. Since he has money to dispose, many relatives expect him to help them financially for any of their issues or ventures in life. Husband is of helping nature, so he extends help whenever asked. He knows the money will not come back. Since my client wants him to be happy, she tries not to interfere. She wants husband to be happy, but the lady herself is not happy giving money to relatives. She knows it is his duty to help family and it is his wish who he can help. So she tries not to react but in spite of telling herself not to react, she is upset about it. Whenever someone asks for help, it ends up in an argument between husband and wife. And she reached to a helpless stage where it started feeling like a never ending cycle. When someone is driven by their imprints, they find themselves in such repetitive situations and tend to react in same way in spite of their best intentions not to react. The entire situation including their own reaction gives them quite a helpless feeling. It is like a frightened child put on a giant wheel. The child feels dizzy and nauseous exactly at the same height and fears it but he can neither stop it from going on and on nor jump down from it. Do you feel this way about any of the issues in your life? Then definitely this particular situation in your life is being created from the subconscious imprints. Do you feel you had enough of it and very badly want to get down the giant wheel? Congratulations. This is the first step. The feeling that you had enough of it and you are willing to step out of that situation is the critical first step. You make such a commitment only when you care for yourself. And the good news is, caring for you is the most apt solution to any of your life issues driven by past imprints. It just involves honouring yourself and all your feelings. Does it sound too simple? Heart is simple. Feelings are simple. Hence a heart centred solution is simple. It's only the mind, or as in this case, the subconscious mind, that complicates things in life. Isn't it? So how does it work? We have seen in our last articles, how past painful experiences leave strong imprints. But how do these imprints get stored in the subconscious and stay there so long? Even for several lifetimes! When we faced painful emotions in our past, mostly as a small, helpless child, we were afraid of the pain. We do not know how to handle the pain in that experience. So we suppressed all of them and tried to push away the memory of that experience. But all of it is still present in our subconscious as imprints. So what keeps imprints in place is the unfelt and unresolved pain from that situation. In fact, all our memories of past have some emotional response attached to it, either painful or pleasurable. Without any emotion attached to a situation, it will not get stored in our memory in the first place. Imagine, you have experienced millions of situations in all these years of your life! How many of them do you remember or can recollect now? When you do recollect, can you recollect anything that doesn't have an emotion attached to it? That's the reason the solution here is to heal the unresolved pain sitting on top of the imprints in your subconscious memory. It is like a giant paper weight that is kept on a stack of papers. You just remove the weight and papers just fly away with even a simple breeze. Just paying attention to your feelings in any painful situation will heal all the past pain that is keeping the imprints in place. When the past pain is healed, subconscious memory of the past experience just melts away. That is why it works so well. In the case of above example, when I asked my client to enquire within herself, what is the exact feeling/s that the present situation triggered, she figured out fear of poverty underneath the pain. It is based on a childhood memory. She had that fear because of a bitter experience that her father had faced with his relatives about money. As a child, she just felt helpless in this situation. As a child, she didn’t know how to deal with that insecurity when she came to know about father's financial troubles. She was just afraid they will all end up being poor. All that unfelt and unresolved fear and insecurity is sitting now in her subconscious. So I asked her to honour and allow this feeling of fear when she is in my office. And to allow herself to feel all there is to feel in her present situation with finances. Just by doing this, it allowed her past pain to be healed. Once it is healed, she is able to acknowledge, that as a mature adult and in her position now, there is no need to feel helpless and be in fear. Now she doesn't feel the pinch when her husband helps anyone. Not just that, even the calls for help has come down like a miracle. It is really a simple solution. Even you can do it easily by yourself. Just honour all your emotions without any judgement. When in pain, do not make yourself wrong for it. Instead, recognize that it is past pain that is coming up now for your loving attention. Treat all repetitive painful situations as triggers. The feelings triggered in the situation help you to identify and resolve the past unresolved pain. Of course, we will take a deeper look at how exactly you can use this in your life in our upcoming articles. But make sure you honour all your feelings and emotions from now on, they hold the key to a happy, light filled life.     Ramakrishna Maguluri Engaging with Life ELAI engagingwithlife@yahoo.com  

"Valuable" Moments

How does it feel when you receive a promotional letter with an increment of 50k per month? Incredible! Absolutely stunning! Amazing feeling! Right?? "However, this all can make you feel happy only in a part your brain... But if you are sharing loving moments with your spouse, this is equalant indeed more than the above pleasure" say Professors at The University of Warwick. Their department of Economics, recently did a research on the kind of returns one will get on investing their time in bedroom with partner. To their surprise, results were Very interesting that, the happiness and satisfaction levels are much more than the pay cheques they receive as bonus by employers. After, continuous research happening on the benefits of being intimate with spouse regularly, will have so many benefits physically and mentally as this act is rated as very good workout for couples, which helps in loosing excess calories; in addition this, secretion of the "endorphin" hormones in body which will trigger a positive feeling in the body and makes person to experience joy and happiness. This is the reason why couples who share the bed at least 2-3 times in a week never get in to depression mode. Indeed, psychiatrists always advise the partners of their patients who are feeling severe despondency and dejection to take out personal time to spend intimate moments. They also say that lack of such pleasure in ladies,often push them in to depression state. With money, one can happily enjoy life with comforts and luxuries, but in reality this can be felt and experienced by a part of the brain. Nevertheless, complete happiness can be experienced by an individual when they develop a skill to be happy with body, mind and soul. This is the only secret behind the extreme happiness every newly wedded couple go through. Experts also advise couple to stick to their cozy romantic moments with out fail, especially when things seem tough, as this has amazing power and plays a vital role in strengthening relationship in a marriage.To be precise, If you are having some personal , intimate moments with your spouse you are the richest without any doubt... Be proud of this. .......BHAVANA

Study Rooms in Trend

  Few years back, having your own library, indeed having your own space for studying was a dream for most of us. off late, people are preferring to have their own study rooms, especially for people who work from home. Men and women want to have individual study rooms while both want to have their privacy while working from home. Well, extended work hours are very much needed for most of the professionals; people in the creative line always look for their space at home too. Hence, concept of having a separate study room is vastly spreading in the market of interior design and home decor now. Few people want this room to be detached from the living room, but few prefer to have a study space with transparent glasses or sliding doors in extension to their living space; when kids are studying these kind of reading rooms help the elders to keep an eye on them; yet there is possibility of distraction when you have joint family or in the house where flow of the visitors is high. But having such study rooms will always help the members in the family to dedicate few hours to this place by reading news paper or catching up with latest magazines or simply doing your work with more focus; places which are charged with specific intensions will always generate similar energies. To simplify, you feel like studying or reading some thing when you enter in to such places without tuning yourself much. when it comes to aesthatics, You have plenty of ideas available in the market if you really want to decorate your study room. Ethnic furniture or going for chinky once or the ones with very classic touch can definitely pep up your mood. Nice space for gadgets and beautiful centre tables for your laptops will also also be added elements to create an appropriate mood to the place. Utilising this very personal reading room for your regular yoga or meditation or for a small stretches and workouts, or to celebrate personalised birthday parties or small gatherings is a brilliant idea. Once you start experimenting on such things you will know more utilities of the place you have chosen for; ultimately, having an exclusive study room in the house is a great thought in the present moment. .......BHAVANA.M

Spirituality at Work

    Most of us today spend a lot of time in our workplaces than anywhere else. We bring with us our set of values, principles, attitudes and fears too. The fear is of being able to succeed in our given tasks, of being able to rise to the occasion, of being productive and efficient and an underlying fear of losing the job. The principles and values that we bring lay the foundation on which we want our careers and profession to stand solidly. Many of us want our work to not only give as material satisfaction, but also a place where we can experience, embody and express our purest self…our real ‘I’. Some principles that could help make your workplace more fulfilling are:   Empathy: Listening to your colleagues and others at the workplace with an open mind and elephant ears takes one a long way. This skill has come through the practice of meditation. Through meditation one can learn to silence the chattering of the mind and allow easy access to the inner voice. Respect and Trust: We all want others to respect as well as trust us. If these two seemingly simple qualities can be imbibed at workplace, half the workload of Human Resources personnel’s will be taken care of. Trust is the cornerstone of authentic communication. When there is respect for each other’s ideas, opinions and principles, a “safe space” is created in which people have the permission to talk about their truth without fear of reprisal. Nurturing: The more you nurture your inner world, more magnificent the outer world is. How wonderful it will be if we all can nurture the expression of the self and the spirit in others as well as ourselves in our work place. We all should take responsibility to facilitate the discovery of spirit, to celebrate it, and to hold others accountable for their expression of it. We all can become leaders in our own right and can support our colleagues, subordinates and bosses too in understanding that one of our key responsibilities as human being is to fully express our spirit, our life purpose, and our gifts. Introspection: Last not the least is the quality of constant introspection. If we all can take time every day, even if it is for few minutes, to look at our thoughts, our actions, our decisions, we will find ourselves a better person. If we can look at all that we do from the lens of “Is it for the benefit of all”, we will be building a spiritual sanctuary at our work place.   Then working in a team is fun!    

Love and Accept yourself

    "Accept everything about yourself--I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end--no apologies, no regrets." - Clark Moustakas Do see yourself accepting just the way you are? Notice how many conditions you attach when you look at yourself. Perhaps you feel you can accept yourself only when you have achieved something, or you want to look in a particular way, you have to lose enough weight to fit into the perfect pair of jeans or wait for others to acknowledge you. It usually leaves you feeling very dissatisfied, incomplete, or there is something incomplete unless you have those qualities or things that you want in life. What you see outside is only a reflection of what you are, what you think and what you feel deep within. Always remember, “The outer world reflects your inner feelings and thoughts”. Learning to accept yourself just the way you are is the key to positive change in your life. A very effective good way to start is by affirmations. Continuous and positive affirmations on a daily basis could change you and the situations are in. For example instead of saying “I am fat “you could say “I am the perfect weight”. When you feel stuck up in money issues and you feel the lack of it just say “I am a magnet for money”. Each situation and emotion you face can be cleared with these positive suggestions. Another powerful tool would be to look in to the mirror and say these affirmations and tell yourself how much you love yourself, this can bring a lot of change in your life.  The key to self acceptance is self awareness which will bring a major change in your life. “I Love and accept myself exactly as I am “    

Transform your single Studio Room

  Studio Apartments or single large room tenements are ideal for bachelors’. But they also come with issues like clutter and where to put what. Try these known but simple tips to help you do up your studio pad into a wonderful and organized living space. ->Once you know your space, you need to demarcate your living areas as to where you want the kitchen, TV set up, bed and your storage places. ->If the room has a platform for the kitchen area you could think about storage places to put your dishes and cutlery and make sure they don’t spill over. ->You could consider using a curtain or partition to separate your bedroom from the rest of the room for privacy. These can pushed back for space when not in use. Use colors like white or grey so that it doesn't look too dark. ->If you are on a budget you could look at purchasing second hand storage spaces to keep your clothes and other stuff. ->When it comes to a bed you could buy those which are fold able into a small Diwan and also have storage space in them. It serves as double purpose. ->If the room has a separate nook or corner you could convert that into your reading place where you could keep a chair and lamp and your books in that corner. ->If the place has huge window, try making the most of it for letting sunlight in and use a colorful drapery to give it a nice look. ->And last but not the least - Avoid clutter. Keep things that are only useful and functional and if you are done using an item throw it or give it away to avoid clutter. Since you are the master of your single studio domain it is best to keep your place functional and hassle free and enjoy the bliss of your home.

Jobs change Our Lives!

Yes! Jobs change not just our lifestyles, they also change our lives...what we were until the day we started working, how much time we had to stop and smell the roses, how we respond to matters...almost everything changes. Until the day we realise we have changed, we dont know this change has creeped in. There is no time in life to spend with our own children, traffic is one major culprit in any part of the World. Parents are often complaining that they are loosing precious family time due to their long commutes or serious traffic issues in their cities. Our jobs lead us to different parts of the World and we miss families and relatives. One is definitely motivated to relocate for a high salary job amd is much aware of the distance between his/her family and themselves after moving, but they tend to expereince sad and lonely moments everytime they miss a family gathering in the home country or when the job commitment stops them from seeing a relative or dear friend for the last time. Isn't it sad? Yet without a job it is highly impossible to survive in this World. Some avogation that pays you monetary returns!   There are young parents who have to work for livelihood and they have no help to attend to the children, when residing in a different country. One resort is to send even a newborn to the home country, away with grandparents..all they can do is come home to a lonely place and miss the children every moment...it is not even the same country to travel during a weekend and come back..it is a different country, thousands of miles away..going there often is a dream!! For a person who focused on social service until his/her job happened, such good deeds are rare, later..it remains a tale ! Even fitness related activites dont happen unless that person is extremely determined to spare time to stay healthy. Jobs have been from ages, but due to traffic issues, and opportunities that require travelling, relocation to other countries and increasedjob demands, sparing time for family, health and hobbies has become an impossible thing. If there were more than 24hrs a day, and if every job was a work-from-home job, matters could be resolved..thats the reason...'Jobs change our Lives, not Marriage'. -Prathyusha Talluri

Facts from W.HO.... that you can't miss

  • Globally, as per 2014 data there are more than 1.9 billion overweight adults, at least 600 million of them obese. • Obesity and overweight pose a major risk for chronic diseases, including type 2 diabetes, cardiovascular disease, hypertension and stroke, and certain forms of cancer. • The key causes are increased consumption of energy-dense foods high in saturated fats and sugars and reduced physical activity. • The health consequences range from increased risk of premature death, to serious chronic conditions that reduce the overall quality of life. • Most of the world's population live in countries where overweight and obesity kills more people than underweight. • Of special concern is the increasing incidence of child obesity. 42 million children under the age of 5 were overweight or obese in 2013. Often coexisting in some developing countries with under-nutrition, obesity is a complex condition, with serious social and psychological dimensions, affecting virtually all ages and socioeconomic groups. Increased consumption of more energy-dense, nutrient-poor foods with high levels of sugar and saturated fats, combined with reduced physical activity, have led to obesity rates that have risen three-fold or more since 1980 in some areas of North America, the United Kingdom, Eastern Europe, the Middle East, the Pacific Islands, Australasia, India and China. The obesity epidemic is not restricted to industrialized societies; this increase is often faster in developing countries than in the developed world. Why is this happening? The rising epidemic reflects the profound changes in society and in behavioural patterns of communities over recent decades. While genes are important in determining a person's susceptibility to weight gain, energy balance is determined by calorie intake, nutrient density and physical activity. Changes in dietary and physical activity patterns are often the result of environmental and societal changes associated with development and lack of supportive policies in sectors such as health, agriculture, transport, urban planning, environment, food processing, distribution, marketing and education. As incomes rise and populations become more urban, diets high in complex carbohydrates give way to more varied diets with a higher proportion of fats, saturated fats and sugars. At the same time, large shifts towards less physically demanding work have been observed worldwide. Moves towards less physical activity are also found in the increasing use of automated transport, technology in the home, and more passive leisure pursuits. Thus societal changes and worldwide nutrition transition are driving the obesity epidemic. Economic growth, modernization, urbanization and globalization of food markets are just some of the forces thought to underlie the epidemic. What can we do about it? Good news is that these diseases are PREVENTABLE as Obesity is preventable! Effective weight management for individuals and groups who are at risk of developing obesity involves a range of long-term strategies. These include prevention, weight maintenance, management of co-morbidities and healthy weight loss. They should be part of an integrated, multi-sectoral, population-based approach, which includes environmental support for healthy diets and regular physical activity with a calm mind. At the individual level, people can: -limit energy intake from total fats and sugars; -increase consumption of fruits and vegetables, as well as legumes, lentils, whole grains and nuts; -move towards complex carbohydrates instead of simple carbohydrates; -engage in being physically active with a cheerful and focussed mind The food industry can play a significant role in promoting healthy diets by: -reducing the fat, sugar and salt content of processed foods; -ensuring that healthy and nutritious choices are available and affordable to all consumers; -practicing responsible marketing especially those aimed at children and teenagers; -ensuring the availability of labels on all food items. Courtesy Glow With Health Wellness Solutions

Valentine Decorations

    So we don’t have a holiday for Valentine’s Day but TGIF ( thank god it’s Friday), so take some out and celebrate love and romance. Make it special by decorating your home for the holiday. Decorate your home for Valentine’s Day in a minimum budget and beautify your home with beautiful decorations. And you can also re- use these items again next year. Store them carefully so that they are not exposed to moisture and you can use them again. Decide who you are decorating for: your Valentine’s Day décor choices will depend on if you are catering to children, a spouse, or simply yourself. Lighting If you are in the mood to be a little bold you use miniature lights to highlight a corner place or window or your railings. If you have clear or white lights, this will look nice and you can also use  pink, red or purple light with white combination. Use the wire garland on top of your pictures that are hanging on your walls. Decorate the door ways  with draped Valentine’s Day garland to make your home look more festive. Use valentine’s garlands: You can find wire garlands with red or pink hearts. Many stores also have tinsel type garland with cupids or hearts and some are just in Valentine’s Day colours of white and red, pink, or purple. Candles for Romance: Buy  tea lights, in red, pink, or purple colours and scented candles  and place them in your bedroom, drawing room or even on your dining table. These little gestures of  hearts and warm colours allover your  home make for a perfect romantic set up. And who said kids can’t celebrate. You could cute baby cupid hangings with hearts all over the kids’ bedroom and make them feel special. Sweets and Cupcakes: Valentine’s Day is the day of sweetness and happiness. You could place big glass bowls with heart shaped chocolates, cookies and cupcakes in the hall. Your family, friends would truly love this wonderful feast. Say it with flowers: The eternal expression of love and emotion –Flowers. Usually red and white roses are given but you could also add a dash of pink. Fill your center pieces and vases with these beautiful flowers and don’t restrict to roses. You could try carnations gerberas, lilies and Asiatic lilies for a lovely display. And don’t forget to do up your bedroom Valentine’s cards and teddies Make homemade Valentine’s cards for your loved ones. And if you have kids at home you could make the sweetest cards with decorations like lace, hearts, glitter etc. Get creative! It is also very therapeutic to make such pleasant things to boost your inner child and romance. If you have teddy bears you could place them around your house and its okay if you borrow your kids teddies too.You could also buy those cute heart-shaped balloons you get on the roadside and decorate your house!   Try these tips even if it for the first time and celebrate the day ahead with lots of  love and joy! Happy Valentine’s Day !!!  

Exam Time Diet

    We have spoken about writing tips during exams and now we would also like to add more information about a child’s diet which is one of the most neglected aspects during their exams. It has been observed that even kids who usually eat healthy end up eating a lot of junk food and drink pots of coffee to stay awake during exam times. Plan out your kids’ exam diet in advance, discuss it with them and you are ready to face the trying times! Presenting some tried-and-tested diet tips to help you through the exam times: Healthy breakfast Giving a child a heavy and healthy breakfast is very important. Foods like Oats, Muesli, Upma, Khichdi, Idlis etc are great options with a low glycemic index which provide a constant and steady supply of glucose. Small  meals Loading them with three to four large meals in the day could make them sleepy and lethargic as blood is redirected to the stomach instead of the brain. Small, frequent, nutritious meals make sure that they have a constant flow of steady nourishment keeping them alert and awake. Fresh fruits/fruit smoothies/dry fruits/honey-coated nuts/soups/interesting salads etc are good options. Proteins  Carbs are digested quickly whereas proteins provide the much-needed slow burn giving a constant source of energy. A breakfast rich in protein (eggs, poha, idlis, dosa, dhokla etc) increases tyrosine (an amino acid) levels in the blood and brain which help nerve cells manufacture chemicals which keep your kids alert and active. Water therapy  When kids sit in the comfort of their room and probably with their AC on, they do not feel thirsty and hence end up drinking very less fluids. When dehydrated, the body and mind are dazed, restless. It is hard concentrating on studies. If they do not like drinking water that much, give them fresh fruit juices/chaas or buttermilk/nimbu pani or lime juice/green tea to keep them going. Avoid processed foods Foods like chocolate, cookies etc can cause a sudden spike in sugar levels in the blood. After a while, when the stomach feels empty it could lead to craving for more such junk food. Stress-buster foods  During stressful times like the exams, the body’s requirement for certain water-soluble vitamins like Vitamin B complex and C, minerals like zinc goes up. These help in the synthesis and functioning of adrenal hormones that basically are our stress-fighting hormones. Brown rice, nuts, eggs, fresh veggies and fruits can help. Avoid eating outside  Exams being times for high-stress and low-immunity, children are highly prone for infections. So, avoid eating outside food as much as possible. If your kid really craves for it, just order stuff you have tried before from trusted restaurants you’ve tried before.

Legible or illegible writing

  Is a clue to whether you want to be understood or not Legible or illegible writing in itself tells us little or nothing about the mentality of the writer. A great many professional men and women, top executives, statesmen, authors, musician and most certainly doctors cians and most certainly doctors (as their prescriptions often show) writer illegibly. Young children attempt to write legibly because their attention is concentrated on forming letters. The desire of the detail-worker (One who gives attention to details) is to be sloppy with detail is to turn out a slipshod piece of work. These people have patience and they are found in the ranks of clerical workers, bookkeepers and often kindergarten teachers. It is not usually in the nature of the detail worker to write an individualized script i.e. to say, different from what they were taught. The mechanical accuracy seen in the handwriting of such people shows an ability to follow a prescribed pattern of thought and action themselves in following the copy book script. These people are rarely leaders, their very desire to following a pattern of writing of writing laid down by someone else is the same desire that makes them followers. But legible writing doesn’t belong only to detail workers. Other people may be capable of doing detail work of a different sort. A clear thinking scientist, with a direct approach to his research, may write legibly. Handwriting is, after all, a means of communicating with your fellowmen. If you are cooperative and want to be understood you will make the effort to write in such a manner so as to make it easier for them to do so. Writing illegibly is a way of saying: “This is the way I am, try to understand me if you can, if you cannot, too bad.” Illegible writing belongs, first of all, to the uneducated (Illiterate) person. With training, the formations may become more readable, but education does not necessarily result in legible writing. One might be able to express his thoughts with clarity in conversation yet not write legibly. On the other hand, one might be awkward, even inarticulate in conversation yet his handwriting might be quite legible. A nervous person may write illegibly. One should take care that the nervous person’s handwriting is not confused with that of the shrewd or dishonest person. - Ranadheer Kumar Graphologist

Why should you exercise??

  Well, hitting gyms once in a while is pretty easy but maintaining the continuity is indeed a challenge. Exercising or workouts at gyms is just not only for well chiseled body or for weight loss alone. But exercising important for the body and mind functioning. And many of the physical sweat-outs improve the multiple organ co-ordination. Here we give you 10 reasons why you should sweat out regularly: The physical exercise also boosts up the functioning of the master organ – Brain. It is rightly said the more you use the more is the brainpower developed! Exercise is known to improve your performance in all fields. Exercise makes you feel alive and agile and so you can concentrate and excel in your field of work! Exercising is best way to keep your heart at its pink! Beside cardio workouts any kind of physical workout can pump up the heart rate. And it also brings down the incidence of the cholesterol the major enemy of your heart! A regular workout keeps you energy levels high all day long. The more you exercise the more you feel energized! Exercising not only keeps you limbs and their muscle fit but also the internal organs thus strengthening the immune systems, the armed forces of the body and capable of warding off the diseases! If you regularly exercise, you body gets customized to a certain routine and it does all its duties  on time like regular bowel movement, a constant amount and timing of digestive juices and regular sleep cycles. In short your existence becomes systematic. Wanna hook up? Then include physical workout in your daily regimes. It said that exercise builds up relationships, just because exercising makes feel good and can thus you can propel in your relations. The physical movement of the body also has an affect on mental status. Thus it melts away depression and stress! Working out enables you to eat more, a point to be noted is that if you gulp in junk foods you tend to become lethargic, so try eating healthy foods like fruits. Now that you have many reasons to exercise, let’s hope that you all include physical activities to your routines! Take Care!! .....SIRI