UPPER HAND - Prathyusha Talluri   GOD gave us 2 hands, not Upper hand and lower hand...Marriage is a balance, any imbalance would definitely cause problems. In a dominant relationship, either the wife or the Husband might stay calm, but they know they are not happy with the dominant partner. Ofcourse, there are people who dont mind being dominated, their love for the other person is such. It doesnot mean, a partner who dislikes to be dominated is not loving the wife/ husband perfectly.  Times were such in past generations where wives never bothered much if her husband ddn't care for her. There were even wives who dominated badly. I wonder who started it, but there is a fear of being dominated in marriage. Arranged marriages tend to initiate this fear as the partners don't know eachother well. We never know, some Love-marriages change too. But my question is...Why should one dominate, can't there be love and trust ?...We see so many wives complaining even in these times, so many husbands frustrated...their partners don't spare them even in parties and public places, they think it adds weight to their power but that behaviour kills the persons public respect, and the whole family's image.   It is so inconvenient for the friends to continue being with them, for new families to make friends with them, either one should be friends with the pitiful wife or husband, and indirectly the dominant character tries to influence the friends of the wife/husband...and they are left isolated....where are we ending finally? The families ruined, no friendly relationships, no happy discussions, no good memories.......who taught that person to be dominant, where did she/he learn that trait from??!!    

PILLOW BASICS Make your bedroom look magazine worthy with these tips for arranging bed pillows. 1) Stack four white pillows at the head of the bed for a clean simple look. 2) For another look, place normal size pillows against the head board and then a pair of big size pillows (shams) covering them. Build upon this basic look by adding accent pillows. Place two identical accent pillows in front of the shams. Cram the look with another printed accent pillow. Asymmetrical arrangement like this creates a traditional, more formal look. 3) For a more relaxed look, start with standard pillows in patterned pillow covers and add plain colored big size pillows (shams). Then add in a few accent pillows. They don't need to be perfectly arranged and can overlap at casual angles. To dress up a Sofa with Pillows: 1) Ditch the pillows that came with your sofa in favor of a more personal arrangement. Pair a large square plain colored solid pillow with along small patterned pillow for an ensemble without fuss. Place another pillow and throw for balance. Varied shapes and patterns keeps it look interesting and simple. 2) Create the same arrangement on both sides of the sofa for a traditional look, layering in large pillows with small pillows in front. Play with different shapes, textures and patterns to create a look that's fresh and relaxed. Mixing in at least one pair of pillows in the arrangement pulls it all together. - Prathyusha

FIRST STEP OF THE SEVEN 'Saptapadi'. They say Seven steps but marriage is more than just steps, there are voyages, barriers, distances, and finally a successful journey. Every girl who is happy about her marriage being arranged is not only happy but also tensed. Her life is about to change, she has no clue how much it would change. Everyone around her says, it will change, it will be different, it will be good, she will be happy. However, there is not much time to worry, she has to shop around, get ready...and then finally the Big Day. The first few days are super busy, and once things start to settle down, slowly she realises its a new house, new people, new voices...... The people whom she grew up with are no longer around her, every morning she wakes up, its not her Mom's voice thats heard first. Her Dad's love not easily available, the siblings' hugs are far off.......these are the times when a newly married Girl seeks her Husband's affection, she looks for her maternal family's love in him, she is suddenly very emotional, suddenly there are tears filling her eyes...Some men understand this state of a woman and they try to comfort and soothe, but few don't and can't even understand why a girl cries when she bids farewell to her parents after the wedding. Girls, attention!!! Its not a guy's fault, they need not be blamed for such a non-understanding behaviour. Its just their nature. Even the most loving men, can't sometimes be so sensitive. Please don't judge your man right away. If he can't understand your state of mind, keep quiet, call your parents and tell them you miss them, but don't cry and cry. You don't want to act or demand sympathy from him. don't be so weak....nothing went wrong, you just got married...even your Mom got married few years ago, but she is happy now..your better guide could be your Mom. Some more relief coming your way!!   - Prathyusha

COLOR PSYCHOLOGY Every color has its own personality and also reflects a characteristic. These color concepts are keenly followed in Interior design to make a space turn successfully beautiful. Yellow is often associated with happiness and optimism because it can activate memory, stimulate the nervous system and promote creativity. Pair up yellow with white for a better combination. If a bright yellow isn't your style, try a neutral pale shade. The added bonus: the earthy shade gives the appearance of a larger room. Red immediately evokes a passionate, romantic feel in any room. It can add drama when used generously or just a simple touch can warm up a space. Use small doses of red if you want to spice things up without completely committing to the bold hue. Pink isn't just for little girls' rooms anymore. Pink adds that youthful feel to any space. A deep orange, or terra-cotta shade, is a great option for a home office — it's energizing by day and cozy by night. Go with a lighter shade of orange, such as apricot, if you want a more energetic yet relaxing look. Green reminds us of life and renewal since it's associated with nature. It's one of the most versatile colors — it can be dramatic, refreshing or inviting depending on how you use it. Lighter shades of green, such as sea green and celery green, bring a light and airy look. A light-green shade can add sophistication and crispness in harmony. Any homeowners turn to blue when painting a room because they want a comfortable, inviting feel in their home. For a serene environment, mix a glacier blue with chrome accents. For a completely different mood, choose a darker shade of blue, such as sapphire. This shade will bring a powerful punch to any room, but it isn't for the faint of heart. For a less dramatic approach, bring in touches of yellow. Purple correlates with royalty and creativity, and it can completely refresh your home's interior. If you have a simple space you want to spruce up, try adding multiple shades of purple. Sometimes all you need are accents of color to change the mood of a room,purple pillows to a gray living room bring in an energetic vibe. Designers love to use gray as a backdrop or neutral shade because of its ability to allow other colors to shine. Its sophistication comes off as too serious sometimes. A lighter shade of gray brings a romantic, sophisticated and inviting look. Brown is one of the most comforting colors, so it's a top choice for living rooms and kitchens. The soft brown wood tones for cabinets make a room feel inviting and pleasant. Using brown is a great way to highlight bold colors while anchoring the space.   - Prathyusha

TISSUE POM POMS Tissue papers can be very handy and inexpensive decoration materials for a Birthday/Party. Materials Needed: colorful tissue paper, scissors, florist wire, ribbon. Procedure: Layer six to 10 sheets of standard-sized tissue paper on a flat surface. Fold width wise in an accordion-fold pattern. Use sharp scissors to cut both ends of the folded tissue paper into a point. Bind the center of the tissue with florist wire. Tie a ribbon onto the wire so the finished pom-pom can be suspended. Gently pull apart layers of tissue and fluff them to form a sphere. Alternate between pink, lime green and white tissue to create a striped effect or choose paper in varying shades of the same color for a floral effect.   - Prathyusha More articles from this author.... http://teluguone.com/vanitha/content/left-out-wrapping-paper-944- 26438.html#.Uunmhvu6Zkg

MOM-IN-LAW and LOVE When it comes to a helping hand, two Grandmothers are better than just one. I am not writing this so that you will impress your Mom-in-law to only get her help to handle your children, but also that you will have a better and happy family life. A new Australian study proves that Women who had better contacts with thier own mothers and mother-in-laws have much higher satisfaction in life and overall well-being. You can't under-estimate two sources of maternal support. Infact, grievances and silent wars with ones Mother-in-law never help. Its always good to say HELLO and stay in touch with His Mom, it makes him feel good about you and his Mom will not feel bad about you...there will not be any resentful feelings in the marriage if strong relationships are maintained with both sides of the family. Stay Happy!!!   - Prathyusha

Cleaning winter coats "To not bother much about our Winter coats is not a big thing, but not anymore. Though the coats we use to shield us from the cold and rain don't need as much cleaning as our socks do, coats also need cleaning once a while. Most insulated jackets are made of fabric that's meant to protect us from cold and rain, and if it becomes grimy, it will lose some ability to repel water. Even coats that appear spotless should be cleaned once a year to keep them smelling and looking fresh. It's easy to do: while there are some exceptions( as mentioned in the tag inside for washing directions), many insulated jackets can be washed in a machine using warm water and a gentle cycle. To dry, zip the coat and close it, turn it inside out, and tumble dry on low. Then shake out the jacket and puff it up.   - Prathyusha

TOP OFF THE FUEL TANK? Resist the urge to round up the nearest dollar/rupee when you are at the fuel station filling on your own or even if there is a helper. The more fuel you force into your tank beyond its capacity, the more fuel vapors you force out----either into the atmosphere as pollutants, or into your vehicle's vapor-collection system, which could become overloaded. That's not the only drawback. The nozzle shuts off when the tank is full, so those last few drops you're paying for could remain in the fuel hose. Once you hang up the nozzle, the gas drains right back into the station's reservoir. its may be pennies or very few rupees, but still what a waste of money!!!   - Prathyusha More articles from this author..... http://teluguone.com/vanitha/content/wall-decor-944-26023.html#.UuYio_u6Zkg http://teluguone.com/vanitha/content/---hanging-lamp-shades-944- 26544.html#.UuYic_u6Zkg

COLORFUL HANGING LAMPSHADES - Prathyusha Talluri   Who says beautiful hanging lampshades are only sold in the Decorative stores. If you have the desire, and interest, and few necessary items,,you can hang one each in all your rooms and also start giving as gifts.    We need: Few long colorful yarn or coconut twine,  Strong glue or corn starch and  a Balloon. One light bulb with a long enough electric wire and a holder, already hung or with the arrangement to hang the shade, once ready. To start with: Apply the glue to the yarn and start wrapping it around the inflated balloon as close or as desired in weave. Leave a small area, just wide enough to slide the bulb holder at the top or bottom. Give the yarn a night’s time to dry out and use clear spray shellac to finish it. Now once the yarn is dry, blow the balloon flat, pull out the balloon slowly out of the sphere. The lampshade is ready to decorate your space and on its own a warm and fuzzy conversation piece.  

Design Your Own Jewellery You can make beautiful jewelry using simple techniques. A string of pearls is an ornament of timeless beauty.To make a string of pearls, you will need approximately 50 pre-drilled pearls with a diameter of 6-millimeters, a length of about 2 yards of size E silk thread, a thin needle, two clamshell tips, one jump ring, and a lobster clasp. Small scissors and jewelery cement are also needed. Thread the silk string through the needle, and move the needle to the middle of the string. Make a knot to tie the loose ends. Put the threaded needle through one clamshell tip and pull the thread until the knot is on the cupped side of the clamshell. Add a drop of glue, trim the remaining silk and close the clamshell. Start threading the pearls, and make an overhand knot with the doubled silk string between each pearl.Pull each knot tight against each pearl by sliding your fingernail. Link the clamshell tips to the lobster clasp and the jump ring.apply a tiny drop of glue at the end of the clamshell to keep the tip from opening.Once the clasp and jump ring have been added, the pearl string is complete.

LEFT OUT WRAPPING PAPER We all mostly have pieces of wrapping paper left out, or we store the wrapping paper from someone's gift and cant reuse as they are foldings here and there. Wrap candle jars with the strip of wrapping paper, and give them a new look. Dress up an already wrapped bouquet. It looks so much prettier than the plain paper most stores use. Use as a shelf liner in the bookshelf or closet, or an armoir. Use it to cover ceramic or glassware in a box along with a bubble wrap when giving gifts to others, the old foldings dont matter. Cut the paper into crinkles by folding the paper multiple times and using a crinklecut sciccors and use the pieces to fill jars to decorate or to fill balloons to burst on birthdays or fill boxes for storing glassware. Make a patchwork poster with different wrapping paper designs and an artpiece is ready. Turn it into a bunting for Birthday decorations or a party look.   - Prathyusha More articles from this author..... http://teluguone.com/vanitha/content/home-decoration-ideas-944-25982.html#.UuCgH_u6Zkg http://teluguone.com/vanitha/content/wall-decor-944-26023.html

తొలిసారి నేషనల్ పోలీస్ అకాడమీ డైరెక్టర్ గా అరుణా బహుగుణ జాతీయ పోలీస్ అకాడమీ డైరెక్టర్ గా తొలిసారి ఓ మహిళా నియమితులయ్యారు. సీనియర్ పోలీస్ అధికారిణి అరుణా బహుగుణను అకాడమీ డైరెక్టర్ గా నియమించి ఉత్తర్వులు జారీ చేసింది రాష్ట్ర ప్రభుత్వం. 65 సంవత్సరాల సుధీర్గ చరిత్ర కలిగిన ఈ అకాడమీకి తొలి మహిళా డైరెక్టర్ గా నియమితులైన అరుణా బహుగుణ 1979 బ్యాచ్ కి చెందిన ఆంధ్ర ప్రదేశ్ కేడర్ ఐపిఏస్ అధికారిణి. పోలీస్ అకాడమీకి ఒక మహిళా డైరెక్టర్ కావడం ఇదే మొట్టమొదటి అవడం విశేషం. 2017 ఫిబ్రవరి వరకు ఆమె ఎన్ పిఏ డైరెక్టర్ గా కొనసాగుతారని కేంద్ర హోంశాఖ ఉత్తర్వుల్లో పేర్కొంది. గతంలో ఆమె ఆంధ్రప్రదేశ్ లో ఉన్నప్పుడు పోలీస్ గృహ నిర్మాణ సంస్థ చైర్మన్ గా, అగ్నిమాపక శాఖ, జైళ్ళ శాఖ, ప్రింటింగ్ మరియు స్టేషనరి డైరెక్టర్ జనరల్ గా పనిచేసారు. విధి నిర్వహణలో ప్రతిభ కనబరిచినందుకుగాను ఆమెకు 1995 లో భారతీయ పోలీస్ పథకం, 2005 లో రాష్ట్రపతి పోలీస్ పతకాలను అందజేసారు. ఒక మహిళగా అరుణా బహుగుణ సాధించినటువంటి విజయాలను దృష్టిలో పెట్టుకొని... సమాజంలో జరుగుతున్న అఘత్యలకు భయపడకుండా ధైర్యంగా ఏదుర్కోవాలి. మనల్ని మనం తక్కువుగా చూసుకోకుండా ధైర్యంగా ముందుకు వెళ్ళాలి. ఒక మహిళగా పుట్టినందుకు గర్వపడలి. మనం ఒక ఎతైన స్థాయికి వెళ్ళడానికి ఎవరు నిన్ను ప్రోత్సహించకపోతే నిన్ను నువ్వు ప్రోత్సహించుకొని ఒక అరుణా బహుగుణల అవ్వాలి .   -వై .లిల్లీ నిర్మల శాంతి

Organise your MakeUp Makeup is interesting! We dont have time always to leisurely apply make up, in such times of hurry, an organised makeup setup is very helpful, it saves lot of our time. Here are some pictures showcasing a few makeup organising tips. We can use the regular glass jars, lay them flat and fill in. Bring home office organisers and fill them. One can also use desk organisers that are actually made to hold pencils and office supplies. We can use 2-3 tier fruit/cupcake holder to organise makeup.   - Prathyusha More articles from this author..... http://www.teluguone.com/vanitha/content/home-decoration-ideas-944- 25982.html#.UtjVifvQtQA http://www.teluguone.com/vanitha/content/wall-decor-944- 26023.html#.UtjVjfvQtQA

 Is Sleeping with Makeup on A Scare for your Skin??     Stats say that women sleep with make up on at least twice a week; either are too lazy or tired to remove it before going to bed. Once in a while letting it go is fine, but it should not become a habit. As a known fact make-up makes you look gorgeous, if left overnight it has an adverse opposite effect!  By leaving the make-up overnight, you clog the pores and oil glands of your skin. Due the impact of the make up the pores get stretched besides being blocked. The pore not only aid in sweating, detoxification but also secrete sebum which lubricates, remove dead cells and irritants, and moisturize the skin, as these pores are blocked the sebum collects beneath and result in acne.  Once these pores get stretched under the influence of overnight make-up, it is hard for them to bounce back to their original shape and size. Moreover, we age making it all the more difficult to get back to normal. By skipping the night time face wash, we are also inviting the free radical generation and lead to collagen break down. Collagen is a wonder protein which keeps our skin firm, taut and glowing. All these factors lead to faster aging of the skin!  It’s best to get rid of this habit as soon as possible. To avoid waking up with disastrous skin, you must remove your make-up each night before going to bed. A make-up remover, facial cleanser, cold cream or toner can be used to clean your skin to avoid allergic reactions!   Take Care!! Stay Gorgeous!!   - Sri

MONEY and YOUR CHILD Ask Daddy and he will get you whatever you want!!!! Mom has lots of money in her purse!! Are these supposed to be discussed with children? Never. Children dont have to know that parents have loads of money or its so easy to earn money. Buying whatever they ask for is something not to be done. if both parents work and feel they are not spending enough time with their children, there are all possibilities that they feel guilty and buy whatever their children ask for, which might result in stubborn nature in the young ones. Children these days are watching parents go to ATMs to withdraw money instantly, pay through credit/debit cards easily to buy anything which is forcing an EASY MONEY thought into their minds. They dont want to know how much parents struggle to earn for the family. Parents have to explain to their children that one has to earn a job or a business and work sincerely to earn livelihood and that money is precious. It is a good idea to encourage children to work hard, and if they do something good, appreciating them with small useful gifts encourages them, however, boasting is definitely not good. Children should not get used to praising either. Encourage them to share everything with you, be their friends too. They should be able to tell you where and how they spent their pocket money. Saving money should be practised at home. You may be busy and not buy them something as promised, the child should not make a mess out of it. Patience and waiting should be one of their characteristics, learnt well from parents. Encouraging them to help others is good, however, thinking and planning before helping is a better action learnt. Social service at a young age is an excellent virtue!!   - Prathyusha Talluri More articles from this author..... SHOPPING WITH KIDS ECO-ALTERNATIVES

EASY WALL DECOR Empty Walls are good but not always....if you are living in a space that is already spacious, empty walls look boring and dull. Usually wall decor is expensive, but if you are ready to spend few minutes and your interest, its so easy. Get some dry branches from a small tree, hook them to a beautiful frame and done...you might not be able to hang it but you can rest it against a wall. Take some cup cake paper, stick them to a canvas board, you can also use bright dress buttons in the center of each flower...fill the canvas as you like. Cut a silk, bright saree piece from your old collection if you dont want to use it, or buy a piece from the market, frame it, or stick it to the canvas carefully and done!   - Prathyusha Talluri More articles from this author..... EASY DECOR JARS AND DECOR

EASY DECOR These decoration tips are easy and with things you generally, already have. Poster Display Skip the frame and use a wooden pants hanger to display a poster instead. This technique works well with smaller posters that are just slightly wider than the hanger itself. Wider posters may flap over at the corners. Display Your Finds Incorporate mementos from vacations or special occasions into your decor. The move will integrate your personality and life experiences into the spaces, where they can be admired by guests and family. Whether it's a collection of shells from a beach vacation or a framed wedding invitation or birth announcement, even the simplest of items become display-worthy when they recall a special memory. Kid's Art Kids bring home a plethora of finger paintings, construction paper creations, and carefully colored drawings. Instead of stowing away these masterpieces, put them on display in pretty frames. Plus, with the ongoing influx of artwork, you have a constant resource for changing up the gallery.   - Prathyusha Talluri More articles from this author..... JARS AND DECOR NO EMPTY VASES

How to Make a Mask with Paper Children will love making and wearing this funny accessiories, and parents will too..With this creative activity, kids can make their own handprint masks.