In some of the previous articles I mentioned about inner-child work. Inner-child work is a psycho therapeutic tool. Different techniques are used in the process of healing the inner child that's there within all of us. The main purpose of the work is to re-parent the child with in, that feels vulnerable. This  child has imprints from conception through pre-puberty.

One of the tool that worked wonders on me was mud therapy. Mud therapy can be done individually and in a group. I found it more effective when done in a group. The process starts with kneading the clay. The facilitator guides us to connect with clay as we kned. As we start playing with the softness, the moisture in the clay, we start to relax and we start to synchronise our breath with the action.

The facilitator will slowly guide us to reach into deeper emotions. We automatically tap into a root cause that would be bothering us .

In my case I was not really specific in what I wanted to deal. I realised it was anger that was coming. All my muscles got tightened as I started to press the  clay harder and harder. When the facilitator guided to make some shapes with the clay. The story started unfolding. I made four dolls and placed one doll in a corner and the other three doll close to each other. That one doll was my self and the other three, my parents and sister. As the story was unfolding I realised it was the anger, anger towards my parents for not giving me enough time and attention. Here I must mention, consciously I never had such feeling towards my parents. All the time I was thankful towards them for the kind of care they have given us even in their difficult times.

My facilitator guided me to release the anger completely and helped me to reparent the child that was still feeling lonely. I referred to the same case in my 5th article- More on Anger.

I could see a profound change in me after this experience. I was more welcoming to the loving energy from my parents. All these years I blocked my self from my parents' love. I could very clearly see why I was craving for attention all the time. After re-parenting the child the need for attention has slowly gone down.

Seeking attention as a child is quite normal. When the child gets that pure love and attention from its parents during the growing years, dependency for other aspects in life as the child grows into adult will be minimal.

We will learn more on why and how important it is to re-parent the vulnerable  child with-in in the next articles.

Nagavalli Cherukuri 

Rebirther