Become Attractive

There were days where kids in the family used to be so scared of Father and their whole communication with him used to happen through Mother only. Later it changed to an extent, where Father was happy in giving little bit access to daughters as they get married and go to some other family; however Fathers maintained (May be they were asked to behave so) little distance with boys till the time they cross teenage. This could be due to the fear that, if you pamper your kid, that leads to indiscipline which may spoil the child.

But was this formula working for the parents, especially dads? May be yes, may be no, only sometimes or only for few. This means, every child is different and unique so as your parenting skills. Parents need to upgrade themselves in terms of their abilities in upbringing children and this has to happen depending upon child’s psychology. For example, if elder child is responding to one parenting model it is not compulsory that this model is workable for the second kid as well. To be precise, “Parenting” is an art and one has to master it to win your child’s heart. They are so many techniques owned by people since ages and still lot of Research work is going on this; nevertheless, “Being friendly with your child” is the most tested and trusted method so far as it transformed the whole idea of Parenting. The kind of bond developed between parents and kids now, is the result of this change only. Creating a strong friendship with your child does wonders in your relationship than trying to be superior or boss to your child.

Once, I heard very beautiful lines from a “ Sadguru” that, “Parents should never sit on a higher pedestal and tell the child what they should do. Rather, they should place themselves below the child so that it’s easy for them to talk”. In, most of the families, we see parents telling kids that they should respect mother and father. We also use various adjectives to address fathers but mothers are exempted from this to some extent. It so happen that, in few families, mothers are blamed if child, is not addressing their father in a respective way. But remember, respect is not something you seek from your child. Since parents are older or they have come to this planet few years early than their kids, they have no right to demand respect from child. Rather, parents must invest their time in loving their kids as much as possible and try to become child’s first priority, whenever kid wants to share any kind of information or experience he/she comes across.

In current scenario, child has so many attractive things like TV, Internet, Friends, different life style and many more. Instead of stopping child from getting attracted to these things, parents should become a joyous, wonderful, enthusiastic and interesting human beings so that child won’t seek any company outside but gets attracted to their parents only. If parents genuinely want to bring up their children with values, then instead of striving for bringing change in child, parents should first transform in to a peaceful and loving persons.

- Bhavana