Our Children and In-Laws

Why do our children behave against us when they meet their paternal Grand parents?! A big Question mark. Suddenly, they start nagging, crying, getting irate at everything we say, and then the Mother-In-law says, 'this is not the way you raise a child, Listen to me.' ......dont mind taking parenting suggestions from MIL but this is not the way...soemtimes, our children put us in a spot we cant escape and clarify. Whether they behave in such a manner at the Maternal Grand parents place or not is not so prominent, but we tend to notice and get cornered, specially when at the in-laws'.

It could be due to the special attention our children receive from the grand parents, the correct reason, unknown. Right before your visit to the in-laws', everytime your child obeys you, follows your instructions, amd helps you with the simple chores even at a younger age, you feel so confident and proud, thinking your child will behave the same there too and people will praise your child.....but the whole story changes as they arrive at the Grands'. They eat with them, they sleep beside them, suddenly you are not their best friend, you are someone they dont like, and you are definitley not the Perfect Mom, you thought you are, amd your friends praised you for.

Whether you deserve this shock is a dilemma, why it happens with most of us is yet another strange thing.....is it only our feeling? Can this feeling be avoided? Is it something our children do intentionally? So many questions. But we get mocked by our Mother-in-laws on our Parenting skills....not an easy to handle, easy to forget, yet another uncomfortable feeling!!!
 

- Prathyusha Talluri