Forgiveness means letting go of our suffering. It has much more to do with our own well-being than that of the person we forgive. When we hold on to our resentment, hurt and anger our suffering doubles. It becomes a veil through which we see ourselves and others; it becomes something we have to justify. And if we don't, we think that we have let the other person to be right in their unfair treatment of us. Getting to forgiveness is perhaps the most challenging & powerful thing that we can do to go "beyond ourselves."
Why should I forgive ?
When you are in a state of unforgiveness there is a lot of stagnation in life and this show up as blocks in your health, career, relationship and finances as issues. You could probably never connect that unforgiveness could block all these aspects in your life and when you forgive, the energy emanated will open up these blocks which in turn will allow good to flow in your life.
All states of ill health come from unforgiveness. Anger, irritation and deep rooted resentment are all forms of an unforgiving state which cause ill health in a human body like boils in the body and also cancer in the long run. When you forgive, it is like coming out of a prison into sunshine. It is empowering to forgive and let go. You open the doors to abundance and love which were hitherto blocked because of unforgiveness.
Most of us are so often trapped in a habit of negative thinking and unforgiveness that we move on in life without actually forgiving the person who has hurt us. All you need is a pen and paper to acknowledge and write your feelings towards that person.
You could just write points or if the feelings are more intense you could write a sheet or two. This could be on a day-to day basis or as and when you feel that you need to forgive if the feelings hurt very bad.
“When you forgive you are free”