His People!

"His People" may be strange, rude, different and odd...why should the newly married Young lady worry about His people. No matter how they are, just leave that worry aside and accept them. He may feel "Your people" are odd and different. He is used to being around his family, their behaviours, their responses may not look odd to him, infact your family is also new to him, their words, their behaviour might look strange to him.

Everytime, You face an odd situation, imagine your spouse in the same place and behave the way he would have responded, but only and always positively. Never repay bad for bad. Your parents' respect is in your hands. If you are rude to them, because they don't know you well, they will immediately think  or even say "Have your parents taught you this?" or "Did your parents not correct your behaviour?" Don't force things to go so far. If they are simple matters, let go of  them, simply. As days go by, you will realize they were petty things, and your husband and his family will know how kind- hearted and soft spoken you are. There are not "Just first impressions" in a marriage, one has to put a continuous effort to make good impressions.

Don't compare, if your husband or his side of the family ddn't treat you well, unintentionally or in certain hardships, you don't have to behave the same when your turn comes. Try to be a kind and best person always. Not so easy to control your frustrations, but it is definitely rewarding.

One last word, i am definitely not asking you to be good if there is physical abuse!!