Worrisome Parenting!

Most parents tend to worry about thier child's growth patterns and milestones....they often compare with other children and set a forceful mark for their milestones....thinking the other's child is perfect...why do some parents loose confidence about children?

'My child hasnot rolled over yet!!....worry', ' our Daughter is not talking yet!... Again worry'.....if i have to state the worrisome comments, there is no end to it....yet, the children do everything at their own pace, and also succesfully reach milestones, one fine day.....however, parents are parents, they....no..WE, including myself, sit and worry about everything concerning our children...most of us do it in secrecy, and behave confident in the presence of other parents. I have spent many nights worrying and fretting about my daughter's sleeping patterns and the tough potty training times she hates, and by the time i realized, she was sleeping in her own crib, she started running to me asking to take her to the bathroom.......but why did i sit worrying and spending hours every night discussing these issues with my already tired spouse!!! No one knows and solves!!...

All i want to say is....'give them time'....my child is 3 years old, and just few days ago, i realized that i shall not complain any ore about her behaviour patterns, i will do my duty perfectly and will 'give her time'. As she observed that i am not impending rules, i noticed she is welcoming that discipline without resisting it. Earlier, i was tough and so was she.

When it comes to comparing milestones, make sure you keep a serious eye, beyond worry....discussing issues with your pediatrician is extremely important. Sometimes, an expert's intervention will be helpful if your child is finding it difficult to reach regular behavioural milestones. Worry is not the solution in any case.

- Prathyusha Talluri