DISCIPLINE MANTRA

Teaching a good behaviour is an art of Patience. Its like a narrow path to success, unlike punishment thats like the wide gate to failure. Actually, research shows that punishing kids creates more misbehavior. It makes them angry and defensive. If, instead, our kind behaviour with few set limits teaches them to learn the same and follow our rules, happily.

You’re the role model. Never act when you’re upset. Resist the urge to shout and scold your child. It always backfires. Instead stay calm, and they will realise that mom/dad are calm and not talking to them because they committed a mistake.

When the child is upset and grumpy, you give him/her more personal time and let the child have his/her meltdown in your attentive presence. Your goal is to provide a calm "holding environment" for your child's upset mood.

You might be mad when she/he repeats the same error, but yelling won't help them remember the right thing or follow your instructions. Your calm words will help. Give the child few duties to excel, assign tasks as they are the leaders, and then they will take ownership and follow.

Remember that children misbehave when they feel bad about themselves and disconnected from us. If he/she goofed up or had a meltdown, think down to their level and look in the eye and say "are you worried that i will shout at you?, i will not, talk to me!" and then the story ends well when your child expresses the fear or hesitation to you and you are already friends with them.

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- Prathyusha